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FIT@50 \ week 3

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FIT@50 \ week 3

Empathy: It’s okay to care.

No matter how “fit” I’ve become, minding my own business has always been my business. During the many years in special operations my job was to know other’s secrets. I was good at my job.

Knowing the darkest moments in another person’s life is a cross of confidentiality I understood I’d carry to my grave. Over the years it might have even caused me to construct a wall around my empathetic understanding.

During a church service I looked around and saw people. I mean really saw people. I began to sense their hurt, their grief and their concerns. My immediate reaction was to mind my own business.

The difference was God placed them on my heart. They’d become my business. Without knowing their names or their “secrets,” I sensed connections with them. I began to pray for people I knew only by God placing their situations on my heart.

I didn’t have to get in their business and for certain sake, didn’t spread their business. I simply asked God to handle their business—Empathy.

Do good,

Scott

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FIT@50 \ week 2

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FIT@50 \ week 2

Finding this picture earlier I thought about how much better shape I was then than now. Behind my computer the adrenaline returned to re-experience the rush. I still sensed the empty state of exhaustion after having completed an open water swim and a long bike, to only prepare for a long run.

Then I took a deep breath, hit “save” on this document and looked at the picture of me. In that chaotic ocean of nylon, Velcro and carbon fiber—it was just me—alone.

It was okay. I’d been alone (single) about 20 years. I never stressed or caved to the naysayers who delighted in prophesying, “You’ll be old and alone one day, you better settle.”

After nearly two decades, I finally did something I was fearful to even whisper, “God, please bring me a mate.”

Funny thing is, when you have peace you don’t feel alone or when the time comes you’re no longer alone you don’t receive notification emails. You just aren’t anymore.

This week’s FIT@50 isn’t about finding love—it’s more important. It’s about having peace with yourself. Don’t settle – for anything.

Do Good,

Scott

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FIT@50 \ week 1

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Who am I kidding, this Friday series has helped me journal a path from what I thought was important to what I know is important. I’ve enjoyed it and not ready for it to end. Although the name is changing appropriately enough from FITx50 to FIT@50.

I’ll share that when I began the Friday posts my goal was to exercise like a teenager leading up to his prom night. On the big birthday I’d rip open my shirt to expose a 6-pack of carb-free abs (kinda).

What ripped open instead was my heart, and the reality that being fit meant so much more than physical prowess. I’ve been blessed with family, friends and a maturity to embrace the life God’s graced.

This is me out back on my birthday. No big trips, cross-country bike rides, parachuting or bull-fighting. Just a great afternoon before an amazing evening reflecting over the joys and sorrows of 50 years – LIFE.

I’d appreciate you sticking with me, and would love to reach out to you who have wonderful lessons to share for the good of the order. Who knows, maybe once Liliana Hart​ makes me eat healthy at home I will don a rocking set of rib muscles!

Do good,
Scott

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Mardi Gras 2015 – In the books

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In these last 5 years of working Mardi Gras as the Chief of Police, I’ve experienced many changes. I’ve also seen that the most important things remain constant.

1. The people in the City of Thibodaux are amazing & know how to celebrate safely.
2. The staff at the Thibodaux Police Department are committed to community policing.
3. The members of the various Mardi Gras krewes cherish cultural value & Cajun tradition.
4. Max and I still look forward to our annual parade route HUGS.

Until next year, see you at the carnival.

 

Mardi Gras 2015 – In the books

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The Eulogy: 2014

The Eulogy: 2014

Over the last few days I’ve witnessed so many who’ve cursed or eulogized the last year; yes 2014. Instead of rejoicing in the 365 days of life God allowed them, they dismiss the gifts of grace in hopes of happenstance instantly or magically changing their circumstances.

What makes a person believe that the tick of a second-hand tock is going to erase the hardships, the failures, the could-have-beens, the should-have-beens and the never-have-beens?

Good things happen, bad things happen, terribly horrible things happen and yes; wonderfully fantastic things happen. This is what we call “Life.”

Were there hard times in 2014? Sure. After 15 years I still miss my mother. After 8 years and counting, I still cheer-lead for my son with Down syndrome to live an amazingly fantastic life. Day after day I still watch my dad as the effects of diabetes and dementia take their collective toll.

This is called “Life” and it’s a gift; rejoice in it. Psalm 118:24 – This is the day that the Lord has made; We will rejoice and be glad in it.

While attending a funeral recently, an 89-year-old gentleman graced me with conversation. In sincerity and optimism he looked squarely at me and said, “Chief, life is too short. Enjoy it.”

What do you say to that?

I thought about the many who hurriedly stowed away 2014 in hopes of better times, the comment I could not respond to on life’s brevity, and my own take on the passing of one calendar year to the next.

I’m going to be honest with you; am I where I wanted to be on several levels at the end of 2014? No, not at all.

– I wanted to increase my walk with Christ

– I wanted to be a better father

– I wanted to be a better son and brother

– I wanted to be a better friend

– I wanted to be thinner and healthier

– I wanted to not be so guarded

– I wanted to cycle more, and eat ice cream less (debatable)

Am I bitter? Have I plastered Facebook with admonishments over a 2014 unlived, have I darkened others’ days with tales of “unfairs” over the last year? No. Not at all. It was a fantastic year. It was a 365 day blessing of mercy that God gifted me. It was yet another year in my life well lived.

This is not an admonishment for pessimistic postings. It’s a reminder that if you think back over the course of the last year you will find;

1. The bad things that could have been avoided, possibly required more of our time and attention.
2. The horrible things that could not be avoided, we should be thankful that we’re still in this life to grieve, learn or recover.
3. The good things that happened probably resulted from our hard work and dedication.
4. The fantastic things that happened probably included someone else’s support along the way.

If you sat on your thumbs in 2014 waiting for what you thought owed and were disappointed, then sitting on your thumbs in 2015 will probably only result in much more soreness and even more criticisms come next New Year ’s Eve.

Don’t be so quick to eulogize the passing year for its failures, as they represent the “you” who experienced it. Instead, embrace the positive and learn from the each opportunity.

Failure is not getting knocked down. It’s refusing to get back up.

See you at the end of yet another superhero’ish calendar year 2015.

Scott
Originally posted at scottsilverii.com – The Eulogy: 2013

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