The Warrior’s Marriage: A Biblical Series On Marriage For Men

Men,

Married, getting married, hope to be married? God created us to desire connection. When it comes to intimacy, we men can find ourselves in a fix without realizing what happened.

Marriage On The Rock is bible-based information that has literally helped millions of people worldwide. Usually taught to couples, I wanted to gear this course created by MarriageToday to men.

Each Monday, I’m going Live on Brick Breakers starting May 14th at 7:00pm (CST.) There is no cost or sign ups.

Just tune in each week.

I’ll answer questions submitted during the class or something you DM me before. This is going to be a no-holds barred conversation with men about men for strengthening our roles as the head of the family.

Please share this with brothers who may be struggling or just want to make their relationships stronger.

Much Love/Much Respect,

Scott

The Warrior’s Marriage: A Biblical Series On Marriage For Men

 

When God’s Will Conflicts With Facebook Algorithms

Several months back I undertook an overhaul of our Facebook presence atMarriage Matters. Trying to tap into that perfect stream of increased engagement while maintaining the vision placed on our hearts was a challenge.

But what wasn’t a challenge is giving you a free gift. It saved our marriage and millions of others. Don’t worry, it’s waiting for you at the end of this piece. God bless you!

SMATGW

Sure, we could follow the traditional social media models by boosting posts, paying for ads and hawking new likes like a nightclub sidewalk caller. But, we’ve committed to doing SMATGW (social media according to God’s will.) No need to Google it, I just made that up. But we really did say we’d do only as He led us to do.

Now, God’s got nothing against digging into the insights section of our Marriage Matters’ page, so I hunkered down and accessed every bit of data I could gain short of applying for a FISA warrant (too soon?)

It showed me the best times to post were in the evenings when our friends were most active. Next, the data drilled into the types of posts that gained the most engagement and traction. Finally, it showed us that resorting to the traditional models for social media growth would be more productive in growing our presence.

It’s a Funny Thing

Even before I started my quest for uncovering the secrets locked within our Facebook account, God began sharing a word with us. He wanted us to begin going live on Marriage Matters to share the secrets of His word.

Once I worked out the technology needed to pre-schedule shows, insert slides, images and other video capture devices into the course of a live broadcast, we were ready to roll. Then God got very specific in His word. He wanted us to go live three times each week, and here’s the kicker, at 6:30.

Oh, that’s 6:30 in the AM!!!!

You see the funny thing, we’re night owls who work until about 3 or 4 in the morning while it’s quiet and no one is texting, emailing or calling. Peaceful, silent solitude. So surely, God was kidding when He said that. I mean really, go live at 6:30 in the morning? Who does that?

Giving God A Hand

We’ve been guilty of trying to give God a hand at having His will get done. Impatience has been one thing we’ve worked on and have mostly begun to wait on the Lord. The 16th chapter of Genesis became very profound during this period. God promised Sarah and Abraham a child, but after 10 years, they were still empty nesters.

Sarah decided to help God out by giving her servant, Hagar to Abraham to conceive a child and therefore allow God to save face by delivering that promised child to her husband. Well, that didn’t really work out too well.

So here we are a few thousand years later and guess what?

We figured God had to be kidding about the early morning time slot. Besides, I’d just completed an in-depth analytical analysis of our Facebook data. The earliest optimal time to post anything was at and after 5:00pm. So we decided to compromise.

We shot, recorded and edited three great episodes. Complete with intro, outro, title screens and subtitles. I loaded them up on Marriage Matters and scheduled one each for Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 6:30AM.

BAM, my work was done.

Second Chances

That first Monday, I woke up around 10:00am, anxious to see the show’s reach, comments, likes, loves and shares. I washed my face and slipped on my readers so I could soak it all in. I was ready to spend the morning responding to the overload of questions and comments.

You know the outcome, right? There was one like and it was Leah, who had tagged it while I was washing my face. I thought it was because it was the first show. It would catch on by Friday. The Wednesday and Friday shows aired as scheduled, but with even worse results.

It had to have been because God’s will conflicted with the Facebook algorithm. I knew the crack of dawn wasn’t the right time. I became hurt and resentful over the weekend. How could we have invested all of that time and effort into the very material God led us to share, only to have it fade into the nothingness that it arrived in.

Sarah, Hagar and Abraham were placed on my heart, and I knew what God was showing me. I was disobedient, even in a desire to “help,” I failed to follow SMATGW because I decided to:

  1. Lean on my own understanding (Facebook data)
  2. Impose my will (Sleep way past 6:30am)
  3. Prideful look (Airing an edited version instead of raw and live.)

In God’s mercy, He showed me that although the trio were all complicit in failing to wait upon His promise, that they were still blessed and God’s promise was fulfilled. Hagar’s son Ishmael became the start of a great nation, Sarah’s son, Isaac led the tribes of Israel to rise as promised and Abraham is the father of many generations.

Despite our human frailty, God gives grace and blessings. But, what about the live show?

In Our Obedience

By the next Monday, God had shown me it had nothing to do with social media presence or increased engagement. It wasn’t even about sharing His word on marriage. God wanted my servant, sacrificial heart to step out on faith and do as He asked me to do.

He didn’t need an earful of data and best social media practices. It was simply a question of was I willing to sacrifice for His will. Was I willing to sacrifice “me” time to dedicate to preparing the script, verses and slides the night before, and be ready to air at 6:30am?

I was so sorry that weekend and felt ashamed for trying to help Him out, when the lesson He wanted to share with His son wasn’t about the way, but only about His will.

Prime Time

I’ll tell you that it’s not always a halo and a choir of angels trumpeting onto do God’s will. That Monday, we drug each other out of bed while trying to steal naps in between brushing teeth, turning on lights and setting up what we like to call, “The Studio.”

With puffy eyes and no idea if the technology would work, we hit the “Start Streaming” button and BAM, we were live.It didn’t matter that we’d only had 2 hours of sleep, or that no one commented or even viewed the show. We were in God’s will.

We repeated that sleepy, sluggish scenario again on Wednesday and then Friday. We’ve done this the last 3 weeks, and while our work and family schedules don’t allow us to go to bed much earlier, we’re still thankful to be in His will. We smack the alarms a few times, hug while praying and then get to work with SMATGW.

I’d love to tell you in less than a month, our live morning Facebook show has gone viral and changed millions of lives. We can’t, not yet, but what we can share is the friends who join us in the morning are a blessing to us and the emails about how they love watching while getting ready for their day has blessed them.

Witness Rewards

The greatest reward for our early morning prime-time special is the love we share with each other while promoting a God-centered marriage covenant model. Leah and I have grown so close since we began, and although we were close before, this opportunity has drawn us into a deeper understanding of God’s word and will.

There is sometimes a fear or hesitation in sharing your testimony in public. No, our marriage wasn’t perfect and it almost ended before it began, but we rolled up our sleeves and went to work. We flat refused to quit on each other, but that required we give each other up to God. He made the changes in us that saved us.

So, while I still do enjoy digging into data, we’re going to stick to the SMATGW approach. We pray you’ll decide to join us in our prime-time slot, but take heart. If you’re not a morning bird either, you can catch every episode at your convenience.

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Liliana Hart & Scott Silverii Live Streaming at Poolside Using Facebook’s Mention App

Liliana Hart & Scott Silverii Live Streaming at Poolside Using Facebook’s Mention App

Join Us Live On Facebook

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What is Poolside Live Streaming?

Social media should be—social. Facebook just released a technology for certain accounts to access real-time live streaming video. You can watch from your computer or smartphone just by visiting either one of our author pages.

Liliana Hart
Chief Scott Silverii, Ph.D.

It’s totally interactive and encourages you to type in questions and feedback. That’s where the live Streaming part of the event name comes from.

Poolside is where we’ll be. We’re on a mini-vacation after months of taxing kids to summer camps and sno-ball stands. We’d love to spend part of that time with you exploring this exciting technology.

Liliana’s next release in her wildly popular Addison Holmes Mysteries has created so much buzz, that she can’t wait to read samples from Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. This New York Times Bestselling series promises to be a blast.

Ask her anything by typing your questions into the comment box on her Facebook page. She’ll be happy to answer you live – except for giving away the ending.

Scott’s latest mission, Savage Souls Outlaw Series is on pre-order and promises to be unlike anything you’ve experienced. He says it like Sons of Anarchy, with 25 years experience of undercover reality infused in each of the five books.

He also just retired as a Chief of Police, and is up to taking questions about anything also. Except what’s he planning to do next.

PS:
If you want to get a jump on the competition because lets face it, everything is a competition—you can submit questions for us to answer during the Live Stream Broadcast. We’ll read your name and question and then give it our best shot at answering it.

Submit questions at our SilverHart page
LIKE, COMMENT & SHARE our page, and you’ll not only have your questions answered LIVE, but you’ll also be entered into our drawing for FREE GIFTS.

Rain or Shine—it’s on.

Your Keys To Join Us On This First Ever Event Are:
Liliana’s page – https://www.facebook.com/lilianahart
Scott’s page – https://www.facebook.com/CopsWritingCrime
SilverHart’s page – https://www.facebook.com/silverhartllc

FIT@50 / week 12

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FIT@50 \ week 12

Social Media: Social

I’ve been asked why I post what I do to social media. It’s simple—to be social. The value is to operationalize the term “social.” It’s what you chose to present to the world. I have no agenda, or master plan—I just enjoy people.

It’s encouraging to know people who are connected through social media. I always try to meet them in person if possible. You’d be surprised how amazing some of them can be on the other side of the computer’s screen.

Talk about amazing – last week while at the hospital, so many folks knew Max from Facebook. It’s a blessing to see their faces light up and kind words accompany friendly gestures.

As a dad, it’s wonderful to see your son touch lives, even without an ability to verbalize his thoughts. That’s the true aspect of social media – being able to convey your message. Max communicates love and kindness through his full-face smiles and double thumbs up poses.

What message do you convey – virtually or in person? It’s your message to manage-make it count.

Do good,
Scott

Ferguson & Public Engagement | What are they good for?

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What’s the best time to plant a tree?

– 30 years ago.

What’s the next best time to plant a tree?

– Today

In general, law enforcement has made for horrible horticulturalists. We’ve not tilled the soil of community engagement as a practice. Now we wonder why no one understands us.

When an incident like Ferguson erupts, the pundits hurry to fend off allegations from a civilian population incessantly asking for answers. I’ve had so many tell how they’ve unfriended people on social media streams because of the content post-grand jury decision.

When a public service organization adopts a “No Comment” paradigm over the course of a few centuries, is it any wonder why questions and misinformation arises during societal flash points. While operational confidentiality is vital to an agency’s mission, the majority of daily operations and information processed by law enforcement fail to meet the level of classified materials.

Social media allows public agencies an opportunity to manage their own message. If an agency fails or refuses to engage in the often free mediums available for informing people, then they should expect to face the accusations of pent up frustrations.

This is a great opportunity for Chiefs and Sheriff’s to re-examine their public relations practices. It has to be more substantial than a few handshakes with kids at the high school ball game. An ongoing, open dialogue with the community we swore to serve builds bridges and breaks down walls.

A few suggestions:

  1. Balance the “official” tone of agency social media accounts. If you want the public to relate to the humanity of your officers, then present them as such.
  2. Not every public event has to be public. People distinguish “photo ops” from sincere neighborhood engagements.
  3. Proactively pursue the media for establishing mutual credibility. Yes, mutual.
  4. Ensure the designated “Voice and Face” of your agency is representative not only of the community, but of the vision and ideals for serving the public.
  5. When wrong, say “I’m sorry.”
  6. When right, give credit to the persons responsible. Whether it’s the rookie cop or the shop owner who dialed it in, give legitimate thanks.
  7. Don’t wait until a crisis to introduce yourself to the public you vowed to protect.
  8. Don’t take it person. Negative public comments are born out of the frustrations of not being heard. Re-evaluate practices to ensure you’ve not shut your community out.
  9. When times get tough, don’t be a prick.
  10. In all situations, be yourself – a single human being placed in extraordinary circumstances trying to handle unimaginable calamities. People understand if you trip, and if you do, refer back to #9.

Ferguson & Public Engagement | What are they good for?

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If Not Us, Who?

Blessed with new friends along the way

John Kerry has been a vital volunteer in promoting our Thibodaux Police Department’s social media strategy.
Blessed with new friends along the way