FIT@50 / week 20
Last Sunday was 7 weeks married. We’ve known each other for a while now, but we always talk about the kids.
Blended families are not to be left to an assumption they’ll just work out. They take effort, patience and understanding.
There’s a fine line to balance in these relationships. Sun Tzu said that the leader who is complimented for his pleasant personality in his first year of command, is mocked because of it every year since.
I’ve based every command assignment I’ve had on that secular and other biblical principles. You have to be a parent–not a friend. Still, I worry about the coming together of so many unique individuals.
Last week Liliana Hart snapped this pic, and there it was. The sweet surprise of confirmation that our efforts are paying off.
FIT@50 \ week 19
Growing up playing every sport imaginable, the idea of being sidelined was inconceivable. As I’ve grown more “fit”, the idea of shining light on others while supporting from the bench is amazing.
I considered what a difference a week makes. We were in NYC for a thriller writers’ conference dominated by a different crowd – okay, it’s still very much a boys club.
Liliana Hart stood aside as authors introduced themselves to discuss crime and mystery writing and my career in law enforcement. It was different to have writers not recognize her, but she genuinely encouraged me to go off and talk “shop.”
This week, the table’s been turned as NYC has been taken over by romance writers during the Romance Writers of America conference. I must confess that I enjoy cheering from the sidelines while my wife shines.
Giving praise and support to others is a blessing for all.
FIT@50 \ week 18
Broken: Don’t Do It
“They broke me.”
Those words were hard to hear.
“I know. It’s what they do,” was all I could say.
The somber, wooden expression in my friend’s face showed what two decades of service could do to even the most dedicated.
Some professions require a certain adherence to its culture, although not part of the official policy. Mavericks, self-starters and long-haired freaky people need not apply.
Unfortunately, the conflict between old school tradition and today’s demand for change has proactive employees caught in a clutch.
To lose the fire of passion that first drew you into your profession is the greatest loss of all. To suffer the darkening of vision for serving the greater good because a handful of naysayers fear change is a disservice to all, but mostly the fearful.
“Stay faithful,” were the words that came to mind. Don’t grant others the power over your life’s passions. Just don’t break.