FIT@50 \ week 14
Thursday night at a family birthday supper my niece said how odd it looked to see a wedding ring on my hand. I said it throws me off balance. Then I thought about what I said.
There’s a weight associated with this ring. It’s called balance.
To shift from decades of doing what I wanted, when I wanted to coordinating daily calendars for meeting the needs of the family took balance. Shifting gears from an “I want” to “We need” has been easier than I would’ve led Liliana Hart to believe (don’t tell her though.)
Balance is the key.
The day after the wedding, we both returned to our regular Monday schedules. There was work to be done after all. Our pastor (who said being tagged in one of our post was a never ending series of alerts) talked about celebrating marriage and carving out the time to honor it.
This week we unplugged and headed out of town for the weekend. It rained, so the pool, the beach and the outdoors we both enjoy were taken off the table. Instead, we goofed off, avoided talking about work or business and never once cautioned the other about eating dessert for breakfast.
Balance is what we found.
FIT@50 \ week 13
Sacrifice: Putting Others First
WOW, what a week of being FIT@50. I got married—how cool is that.
Liliana Hart and I had planned the wedding months in advance, but even before that, we had options to throw any size event, anywhere we wanted. The choice was simple – lets do this for our families.
Putting others first was the right decision. Our kids come after God, so to make sure not only the young, but the not so young could join us, we stayed in our hometown.
There were five other people on this planet involved in the planning. They too chose to put others first, because they were kind enough to honor our request and not let a word slip about our surprise.
I believe because we chose to put others first, the wedding went off without a hitch. It included our most favorite things: Family, food and cake. I’ll confess that when it came time for cake, I did put myself first.
The bible encourages cheerful giving – that includes giving of yourself for others. Sacrifice: Putting Others First
FIT@50 \ week 13
FIT@50 \ week 10
Tough Decisions: Right Reasons
Friday is the kiddo’s last day of school. He’s happy. I’m happy. It’s been a banner year, but it didn’t come without challenged emotions–mine.
The end of every school year includes an evaluation called IEP – individualized education program. It outlines his performance as compared to an expectation of established goals.
At the end of last school year, we all sat in those small desks and chairs to form an odd semi-circle of uncomfortable anticipation. School professionals reported their observations.
It’s a knife through the heart to hear your child “can’t” or “didn’t” or “shouldn’t.” The collection of educators were compassionate in delivering assessments, but the truth hurt. They recommended an alternative route to guide achievement more consistent with his ability. It was a hard pill to swallow, but we trusted them.
One year later and that meeting possibly included the best decisions made. The usual stress, depression and behavioral challenges associated with the former mainstream track were gone. He finished strong.
The cool, confident and funny kid we all adore remained that way. Reduced stress, meant increased learning in the courses more appropriate for his life track. Education comes in many forms – thanks to dedicated professionals willing to recommend the tough decisions for the right reasons, he found his.
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”