The Warrior’s Marriage: A Biblical Series On Marriage For Men

Men,

Married, getting married, hope to be married? God created us to desire connection. When it comes to intimacy, we men can find ourselves in a fix without realizing what happened.

Marriage On The Rock is bible-based information that has literally helped millions of people worldwide. Usually taught to couples, I wanted to gear this course created by MarriageToday to men.

Each Monday, I’m going Live on Brick Breakers starting May 14th at 7:00pm (CST.) There is no cost or sign ups.

Just tune in each week.

I’ll answer questions submitted during the class or something you DM me before. This is going to be a no-holds barred conversation with men about men for strengthening our roles as the head of the family.

Please share this with brothers who may be struggling or just want to make their relationships stronger.

Much Love/Much Respect,

Scott

The Warrior’s Marriage: A Biblical Series On Marriage For Men

 

CEO – Show Them God’s Love This Easter: One Word Matters

CEO – Show Them God’s Love

Growing up, my parents, who were good blue collar folks, never took us kids to church. Not even the obligatory Christmas or Easter. We dressed up nice and opened gifts or rummaged through baskets of chocolate, but Christ had no role in the home.

We were not even what our pastor Robert Morris at Gateway Church kindly called a CEO – “Christmas & Easter Only”

This Easter it is so important to pursue the CEO’s in our life. Invite and encourage them to come to church. It doesn’t have to be your church, nor should it be a guilt trip reminding them of their last 364 days of failing to attend a service.

Many people go on Easter Sunday for the first time for many reasons, but all that matters is that they go, and they hear the gospel of Christ.

What good does one day do?

The day Jesus was crucified, was the first time the criminals on either side of Him were in His presence. While one rejected the Him, the other received Christ and entered paradise for his faith.

Then he said, “Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom.” Jesus answered him, “Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in paradise.”

Luke 23:42-43

We all know a CEO, and at times, been a CEO. This Easter, if the gentle title of CEO fits, make a point to attend a service. If you know a CEO, make a point to invite them to attend a service. It can even be hard to decide what church is right for your, or if asked, which is best on recommended.

Although, there are a month of Sundays, this one day might be the breakthrough. First impressions matter. Consider this choice carefully. While some may enjoy the pomp and circumstance of an elaborate ceremony delivered in Latin, the seeker desperate for God’s word simply needs to hear just that – God’s Word.

You might just be responsible for the one time it takes to know the resurrected Christ. I trust you’ll have a blessed Easter week.

Much Love / Much Respect,
Scott

Called Versus Transformed: Peter’s Life As A Modern Example Of Faith

A few weeks ago I posted a question at Bricker Breakers about when we first came to know Christ. Many Brothers, including myself, testified to accepting Jesus at one point, but truly coming to serve Him later in life.

That was always something I worried about. Was I not saved when I knew I was saved? Was there something else or more that I did or didn’t do? How could I be saved, yet continue to sin?

Then I began to pray about Peter. I like him and I think most of us do because he’s a lot like us. Peter was called by Jesus just as we were, but although he was called and followed, he still fell short of where we think we should be once we come to Christ

Jesus called out to them, “Come, follow me, and I will show you how to fish for people!”

Matthew 4:19 New Living Translation (NLT)

He jumped out of the boat, but sank, he fell asleep while Jesus prayed in the garden, and although he swore he wouldn’t, Peter denied Christ 3 times before he fled from Him.

Peter still clung to many carnal practices such as pride and arrogance despite being in the presence of Christ.

Then he returned to his disciples and found them sleeping. “Couldn’t you men keep watch with me for one hour?” he asked Peter.

Matthew 26:40

This isn’t a knock on Peter, and it’s not a knock on us, but there is a distinct difference between Peter’s life of following and his life of service.

The difference was being called versus being transformed. In many ways we are very similar to Peter. Holding onto a boastful spirit without humility, experiencing what it means to be broken and still redeemed, and finally growing bold in Christ through the Holy Spirit’s transformational power.

But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.”

Acts 1:8

It was once the Holy Spirit fell upon him, that Peter was spiritually transformed from a follower to a faithful believer and image bearer of God.

God featured Peter for a purpose. I feel like the purpose was because so many of us guys go through similar called / transformed experiences.

It’s no longer something I worry about or question, but it did resurface on those days so many of us were sharing our experiences. I knew the devil was whispering doubts in my ear, but thanks be to God, that He whispered the truth.

Much Love / Much Respect,
Scott

Called Versus Transformed: Peter’s Life As A Modern Example Of Faith

Profiles In Personal Pain: Which One Are You and How Do You Manage It?

Profiles In Personal Pain: Which One Are You and How Do You Manage It?

What’s really eating away at you? Are regrets consuming your thoughts so you’re forced to shut them down? Can you sit in silence without a mental movie flooding your brain and demanding that you fill the quiet?

You’re not alone. The pain we carry from our past is tucked away and always available to muck up our lives or turn gold star moments into brown star regrets.

We allow pain, shame and regret to consume us with stress over how to cope with it. Unfortunately, the coping solves nothing. Healing does.

Have you developed your own secret way of helping to ease that hurt? Does your way involve something that if exposed, would embarrass, ruin your reputation or cost you a career? If so, then you are not working toward healing, you are enabling the hurt.

God gives us examples and consequences of how avoiding Him only drags out the injury. There are three primary ways we try to manage pain.

Why do we avoid God? Because the devil whispers in our ear that we’re not worthy, and that we can’t trust God because all He wants to do is convict and punish us. I will tell you that there is no other way than through Jesus Christ the great healer and physician.

~DAVID~

King David was exalted as a great and mighty ruler. God himself, chose David to be king over Israel because of what He saw on the inside.

Man looks at how someone appears on the outside.

But I look at what is in the heart.

1 Samuel 16:7b

Although David was anointed by God, he didn’t come to the throne without serious personal baggage. David is a lot like us in carrying personal pain from our past.

Medication is the first way of unsuccessfully dealing with pain. David’s medication of choice was the flesh. His sexual addiction caused problems for everyone associated with him.

David’s pain was rooted in the rejection by his father. He wasn’t considered worthy of meeting the prophet Samuel who came to anoint a ruler. Yet, there in that rejected, messed up boy, Israel had a king. David’s rejection stung and stuck. Have you been hurt by a parent, and never forgave them? This injury doesn’t heal in time.

I’ll share that as a kid, I’d gotten a red warm-up suit with white stripes. It looked just like my hero, Steve Austin, The Six Million Dollar Man (Not the wrestler.) I wore it everywhere.

One day my dad called out to me, but I was mixing it up with the neighborhood kids. Then I heard his words very clearly, “Hey, idiot in that red suit, I’m talking to you.” I was about ten years old. I stuffed that track suit in the trash, and forty-two years later, those words still hurt.

~SOLOMON~

The son of David, Solomon was by far the wealthiest and most wise human ever to grace the earth. Even though, he was born out of scandal with Bathsheba as his mother. He was a result of sexual sin, and the generational curse of his father continued to plague him too.

Motivation and achievements were Solomon’s failed attempt to soothe his pain. The more he accumulated the less he felt deserving. In Ecclesiastes 2 he shares the futility of trying to outwork his hurt.

I’ve included this small section of the scripture, but please read the entire Chapter 2:1-24.

10 I denied myself nothing my eyes desired;

I refused my heart no pleasure.

My heart took delight in all my labor,

and this was the reward for all my toil.

11 Yet when I surveyed all that my hands had done

and what I had toiled to achieve,

everything was meaningless, a chasing after the wind;

nothing was gained under the sun.

Ecclesiastes 2:10-11

This is so personal to me, as I suspect it is to many of you. I crushed and conquered my way through a career, athletics and academics, only to help me feel less empty. It soon became impossible to fill this empty spaces. Our spirit requires peace, not prizes.

~ABSALOM~

There is a third unhealthy way of dealing with our hurt. Absalom was David’s son and Solomon’s half-brother. His pain, like many with a dominant parent, began at home. Absalom also suffered from intense guilt over doing nothing to defend his sister from a sexual attack by another half-brother.

Meditation stewed in his spirit as hatred intensified. For two years he avoided confronting his feelings and the offender before it erupted, and he killed his brother.

Attacks against others is what defines him. Are you feeling the rage of regret and wrongdoings roil beneath the surface while you look for an outlet to unleash your fury upon?

God placed a message on my heart in the recent past that remains with me today. “Avoiding is not winning.” You can only sweep so much junk under the rug. If it’s confessing a wrong to a friend, spouse, co-worker, or forgiving yourself for messing up once again, time does not heal all wounds. It is a lie, so don’t let stuff fester in your soul.

Which One Are You?

Do you booze it until you lose it, yet it’s worse than it began? Please understand that the substances used to fight addiction are not the problem. The problem is you’re using addictive substances to avoid healing from your pain.

Brothers and sisters; drinking, screwing and fighting will not heal your hurt. Don’t listen to the devil. You are good and you are worthy to be loved. God wants to heal you because He loves you. He’s not waiting to smack you like a carnival game of whack-a-mole. Allow yourself to heal. It’s better than the hurt.

Much Love,

Scott-Leah Silverii

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Preparing Your Mouth: Speaking Life & Death

On the flip side, think about the spiritual, emotional and social deaths when harsh, threatening or negative words are spoken. Telling a child they are stupid or no good, only curses them for future hurt from someone they loved to nurture them.

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FIT@50: An Odd Space For A Kettlebell

 

FIT@50

This was fun. Going to the gym and not really sure where to move to get out of everyone’s way. So there’s this guy, big guy, and he’s pushing the earth off his chest on the bench press.

There’s like two feet of space between him and the other guy grunting like he’s trapped in a mouse hole with an angry cat on his trail.

I grab a kettlebell and begin doing something useless to warm up that involved a lot of bending and stretching, but just shy of becoming a Richard Simmons’ routine.

The mirror shows both guys impatiently waiting. I suddenly feel like I’m there as entertainment for them and I pick up my kettlebell and slip into a corner.

Yeah, I’ll admit that standing in the middle of the open floor space probably wasn’t wise, but hold on, I’m going to say it, “Nobody puts baby in the corner.”

Thankfully it got much better after that. Mostly because Atlas set the world back on its axis and grunty-grunter’s wife showed up and they became more interested in what was on TV than my location.

The best part of this workout was when I experienced for the first time in about 7 years that my t-shirt felt more snug around my chest and arms than it did around my gut.

I snapped this pic of a barbell I found on the floor. No actually, I was using it. But, for the first time in so long I cared nothing about how much it weighed, and everything about how it made me feel. It made me feel healthy.

It’s way too early in the fight to proclaim that I’ve reclaimed not just my health, but my joy. Although, this is the best I’ve felt about my chances of taking control in a long time.

It’s an odd shackle when the devil tells you that there’s still too much work left to be done at the desk, and I shouldn’t leave Leah to go exercise. The last few weeks I’ve been able to free myself of the guilt of turning in less than a 16 hour day, to dedicate an hour to my fitness.

So, in reality, who cares how much weight sits on either end of that bar? I’m here and that’s what counts.

Do Good,
Scott

FIT@50: An Odd Space For A Kettlebell