When God’s Will Conflicts With Facebook Algorithms

Several months back I undertook an overhaul of our Facebook presence atMarriage Matters. Trying to tap into that perfect stream of increased engagement while maintaining the vision placed on our hearts was a challenge.

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Sure, we could follow the traditional social media models by boosting posts, paying for ads and hawking new likes like a nightclub sidewalk caller. But, we’ve committed to doing SMATGW (social media according to God’s will.) No need to Google it, I just made that up. But we really did say we’d do only as He led us to do.

Now, God’s got nothing against digging into the insights section of our Marriage Matters’ page, so I hunkered down and accessed every bit of data I could gain short of applying for a FISA warrant (too soon?)

It showed me the best times to post were in the evenings when our friends were most active. Next, the data drilled into the types of posts that gained the most engagement and traction. Finally, it showed us that resorting to the traditional models for social media growth would be more productive in growing our presence.

It’s a Funny Thing

Even before I started my quest for uncovering the secrets locked within our Facebook account, God began sharing a word with us. He wanted us to begin going live on Marriage Matters to share the secrets of His word.

Once I worked out the technology needed to pre-schedule shows, insert slides, images and other video capture devices into the course of a live broadcast, we were ready to roll. Then God got very specific in His word. He wanted us to go live three times each week, and here’s the kicker, at 6:30.

Oh, that’s 6:30 in the AM!!!!

You see the funny thing, we’re night owls who work until about 3 or 4 in the morning while it’s quiet and no one is texting, emailing or calling. Peaceful, silent solitude. So surely, God was kidding when He said that. I mean really, go live at 6:30 in the morning? Who does that?

Giving God A Hand

We’ve been guilty of trying to give God a hand at having His will get done. Impatience has been one thing we’ve worked on and have mostly begun to wait on the Lord. The 16th chapter of Genesis became very profound during this period. God promised Sarah and Abraham a child, but after 10 years, they were still empty nesters.

Sarah decided to help God out by giving her servant, Hagar to Abraham to conceive a child and therefore allow God to save face by delivering that promised child to her husband. Well, that didn’t really work out too well.

So here we are a few thousand years later and guess what?

We figured God had to be kidding about the early morning time slot. Besides, I’d just completed an in-depth analytical analysis of our Facebook data. The earliest optimal time to post anything was at and after 5:00pm. So we decided to compromise.

We shot, recorded and edited three great episodes. Complete with intro, outro, title screens and subtitles. I loaded them up on Marriage Matters and scheduled one each for Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 6:30AM.

BAM, my work was done.

Second Chances

That first Monday, I woke up around 10:00am, anxious to see the show’s reach, comments, likes, loves and shares. I washed my face and slipped on my readers so I could soak it all in. I was ready to spend the morning responding to the overload of questions and comments.

You know the outcome, right? There was one like and it was Leah, who had tagged it while I was washing my face. I thought it was because it was the first show. It would catch on by Friday. The Wednesday and Friday shows aired as scheduled, but with even worse results.

It had to have been because God’s will conflicted with the Facebook algorithm. I knew the crack of dawn wasn’t the right time. I became hurt and resentful over the weekend. How could we have invested all of that time and effort into the very material God led us to share, only to have it fade into the nothingness that it arrived in.

Sarah, Hagar and Abraham were placed on my heart, and I knew what God was showing me. I was disobedient, even in a desire to “help,” I failed to follow SMATGW because I decided to:

  1. Lean on my own understanding (Facebook data)
  2. Impose my will (Sleep way past 6:30am)
  3. Prideful look (Airing an edited version instead of raw and live.)

In God’s mercy, He showed me that although the trio were all complicit in failing to wait upon His promise, that they were still blessed and God’s promise was fulfilled. Hagar’s son Ishmael became the start of a great nation, Sarah’s son, Isaac led the tribes of Israel to rise as promised and Abraham is the father of many generations.

Despite our human frailty, God gives grace and blessings. But, what about the live show?

In Our Obedience

By the next Monday, God had shown me it had nothing to do with social media presence or increased engagement. It wasn’t even about sharing His word on marriage. God wanted my servant, sacrificial heart to step out on faith and do as He asked me to do.

He didn’t need an earful of data and best social media practices. It was simply a question of was I willing to sacrifice for His will. Was I willing to sacrifice “me” time to dedicate to preparing the script, verses and slides the night before, and be ready to air at 6:30am?

I was so sorry that weekend and felt ashamed for trying to help Him out, when the lesson He wanted to share with His son wasn’t about the way, but only about His will.

Prime Time

I’ll tell you that it’s not always a halo and a choir of angels trumpeting onto do God’s will. That Monday, we drug each other out of bed while trying to steal naps in between brushing teeth, turning on lights and setting up what we like to call, “The Studio.”

With puffy eyes and no idea if the technology would work, we hit the “Start Streaming” button and BAM, we were live.It didn’t matter that we’d only had 2 hours of sleep, or that no one commented or even viewed the show. We were in God’s will.

We repeated that sleepy, sluggish scenario again on Wednesday and then Friday. We’ve done this the last 3 weeks, and while our work and family schedules don’t allow us to go to bed much earlier, we’re still thankful to be in His will. We smack the alarms a few times, hug while praying and then get to work with SMATGW.

I’d love to tell you in less than a month, our live morning Facebook show has gone viral and changed millions of lives. We can’t, not yet, but what we can share is the friends who join us in the morning are a blessing to us and the emails about how they love watching while getting ready for their day has blessed them.

Witness Rewards

The greatest reward for our early morning prime-time special is the love we share with each other while promoting a God-centered marriage covenant model. Leah and I have grown so close since we began, and although we were close before, this opportunity has drawn us into a deeper understanding of God’s word and will.

There is sometimes a fear or hesitation in sharing your testimony in public. No, our marriage wasn’t perfect and it almost ended before it began, but we rolled up our sleeves and went to work. We flat refused to quit on each other, but that required we give each other up to God. He made the changes in us that saved us.

So, while I still do enjoy digging into data, we’re going to stick to the SMATGW approach. We pray you’ll decide to join us in our prime-time slot, but take heart. If you’re not a morning bird either, you can catch every episode at your convenience.

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God’s Law of Transference – The Danger of Trusting Others

God’s Law of Transference – The Danger of Trusting Others

Watch the most recent episodes in the Marriage On The Rock series

“Making Divorce a Dirty Word.”
God’s Law of Transference: Marriage Matters

The Danger of Trusting Others Above

If we don’t trust Jesus, we will automatically transfer the expectation of those needs to those closest to us, especially our spouse. Sets them up for failure.

When you depend on others to meet your deepest needs:
1. You will never be fulfilled.
2. You will become discouraged and cynical.
3. You will become bitter toward people and reject them for not meeting your expectations.

Satan’s ultimate goal is to destroy marriage and to keep us separated and unfulfilled.
Genesis 2:18 – “It is not good that man should be
alone. I will make him a helper…”
– Over-dependence creates dysfunction!

Trusting Jesus will:
a. Our hurts are healed.
– Until our past is healed, it is still controlling our present and limiting our future.
b. We are filled with His love and ability to love others.
c. Our sins and selfishness are challenged and changed into Christ’s character.

God’s Foundational Laws of Marriage: Pursuit & Possession

Pray God Changes You Before Praying Change In Others

Pray God Changes You Before Praying Change In Others

I went live on Facebook (original post) after receiving numerous requests for prayer. The volume of requests weren’t the issue. I love it, but the topic seemed to show that the guys who were reaching out had possibly missed the mark on the purpose of prayer, and it’s power to change.

When I started Brick Breakers a few months ago, I fully expected that a site dedicated to supporting men in their walk with Christ was going to be like sitting in our backyard at night – dark and full of crickets.

I knew God had moved me to start the outreach, but I know guys, and we don’t express our feelings or show vulnerability – EVER.

So, I expected to generate content, and prayed that men would read it and benefit from knowing they were being prayed for.

God really does have it together so much more than I do!

The page continues to grow each week, and although this wasn’t created to count hands, the outpouring of honesty has become a blessing and a lesson learned.

There is such a great desire among men to know more about walking with Christ. They share their struggles, prayers and blessings. I’ve loved watching them reach out and promise to pray for each other. It’s gelling as a very cool community.

But back to the video call-out.

I get many messages from guys who want their wife to return. They say they cherish marriage and want to save it. They also assure that they’ve changed and that their wife either doesn’t believe them or doesn’t want to return.

And while I understand the intentions of their requests, it became important that I try to sharpen their focus on the spiritual realities of praying for someone else be changed by God to suit their personal preferences.

I posted this below in the content of the Facebook post, but wanted to share the short video that goes into detail about praying for change. Please, if you find yourself doing or praying for the same things, give this a view and allow it to help set your prayer life on a direct track with God’s desire.


Do you pray for God to change other people? Think about this for a second.
1-Your prayers are Spirit centered, not self centered.
2-You’re spiritually ready to accept the blessing of an answered prayer.
3-Before you ask God to change someone else, pray that He changes you first so others may see the Christ in you. 

Much Love / Much Respect,


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Rak Chazak Amats: God’s War Cry

Rak Chazak Amats: God’s War Cry

Rak Chazak Amats!!!

This ancient Hebrew war cry has led God’s warriors for centuries. The call to be strong, courageous and without hesitation to consider the impossibilities makes conquerors of us all.

I love the rally speeches that fire men up to victory. Be it a football game or a battlefield, we fight for each other and something bigger than ourselves. This Hebrew call to victory has launched many God-inspired warriors into battle. may it now lead you.

Let’s make no mistake, we are at war. Christ believers are persecuted globally and America’s Christian nation is under attack by a liberal, secular ideology that refuses to stop advancing.

We’ve got to armor ourselves, and stand the gap for Christ. When the devil unleashes his wicked attacks, we will be ready with the war cry:

Rak Chazak Amats!
Rak Chazak Amats!!
Rak Chazak Amats!!!

See you in the trenches,


“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Then Moses summoned Joshua and said to him in the presence of all Israel, “Be strong and courageous, for you must go with this people into the land that the Lord swore to their ancestors to give them, and you must divide it among them as their inheritance.

The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”
Deuteronomy 31:6-8

Eden’s Blame Game: Where Was Adam?


Eden’s Blame Game: Where Was Adam?

There are still people blaming Eve for causing Adam to sin, and thus separating themselves from God. But where was Adam while Eve was having to deal with a masterful enemy on her own?
Was he off doing his own thing? Did he need a little “me time,” or discover a great fishing spot or maybe fantasizing about another, better looking “Eve.”
God created man and woman to become one. Think about mashing duct tape across a piece of paper. Now try separating the two without destroying either item. This is the way we are to be meshed to each other in Christ.
When we men get distracted, or disinterested or disengaged from our spouse, then a gap is created where we are both vulnerable to sin slithering in.
It was unrealistic to expect Eve to resist the devil alone, but had Adam been there, then so would have God been there, because the three were entered into a marriage covenant.
Brothers, we must “stick” close to our loved one. Satan is watching and waiting patiently for something new to catch our eye. Let’s stay focused on Christ.
Much Love / Much Respect,
“For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.”
Genesis 2:24

Get God’s Word To Kick Start 2018

Get God’s Word To Kick Start 2018

Dear Brothers,
I prayed for a word to start 2018, and 3 separate times this verse was shared by 3 different believers. As I prayed over it, God spoke over this verse and I realized it exactly describes the year my wife and I had in 2017, and the reassurances going forward this year. I love His promise about our enemies that they are NEVER to rise again.
Brothers – what are our enemies that God has extinguished? Alcohol, sex, drugs, porn, gambling, violence, divorce, depression. Can we be tempted to return to the battlefield and resuscitate our enemies? Yes, temptation is always possible, but let’s always encourage each other to let them lie snuffed out like a wick.
Please read this short verse and allow it to speak power over your life. God shares a past, an action, a command, and a promise in Isaiah. I’m praying over this verse this week and always lift up our Brick Breakers community. I pray you’ll allow this promise to encourage you.
Much Love / Much Respect,
This is what the Lord says—
he who made a way through the sea,
a path through the mighty waters,
who drew out the chariots and horses,
the army and reinforcements together,
and they lay there, never to rise again,
extinguished, snuffed out like a wick:
“Forget the former things;
do not dwell on the past.
See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the wilderness
and streams in the wasteland.
Isaiah 43:16-19