FIT@50 / week 25
On Saturday I drove around the city in my POV (personally owned vehicle), sorry cop talk. I noticed drivers without seatbelts, easing through stop signs, and generally just motoring about their business.
On the previous Friday, I’d been in my police cruiser. It had a wholly different effect. People immediately put on their seatbelts, they completely stopped at signs and they glance or nodded as they motored about their business.
I thought on that Saturday, “I’m a ghost.”
It felt odd – I questioned my ability and desire to exit a culture as powerful as policing.
Wisely, I began my transition period on Monday morning with several hours of conversation with my pastor, Joshua Melancon. His words reminded me that it never was the cruiser or the clothes or the shield that made the public servant.
It was me – The Ghost.
FIT@50 / week 23
Less than half:
Becoming fit often requires sacrifice. Be it food, ice cream, cake (yes, I went there), and often the bed.
Hold on, this ain’t frisky talk. It’s about years focused on accumulation.
Once I got fit, gathering meant less.
The bed is a regular reminder. My kiddo still comes to sleep in the big bed on occasion.
After five minutes, he has twisted and twirled and torqued until I’m on the very edge.
Sleep may go interrupted until a hazy morning’s awakening, but then it happens.
He hugs me and says, “I love you.”
Less than half – sacrifices all become worth it.
Unplugged & Replugged:
Last week was an amazing experience. I spent the weekend with my wife,Liliana Hart on a Trek Travels cycling trip through northern California. The grapes were the only things online out there. No cell or internet service, and the wifi was spotty to say the least.
So what did I do with my cell phone? Used it as a camera to capture pics of the beauty of our country and the fun with new friends.
I’d unplugged. And it was actually okay.
In the same week, I had a three book deal with Amazon’s Kindle World set for release. This was my biggest writing obligation to date, next to my doctoral dissertation. It required manuscript uploading, cover design downloading and entering keywords, metadata and marketing blurbs.
I’d replugged. And it was actually okay.
It’s the balance that we all seek. It’s the fine line between obsessive and unconcerned. It’s taken almost 50 years to not avoid it, but hopefully not another 50 years to embrace it.
So in this 16th week of rocking 50 years on Earth, here’s to cycling and reading – both passions I enjoy sharing with you.
FIT@50 \ week 13
Sacrifice: Putting Others First
WOW, what a week of being FIT@50. I got married—how cool is that.
Putting others first was the right decision. Our kids come after God, so to make sure not only the young, but the not so young could join us, we stayed in our hometown.
There were five other people on this planet involved in the planning. They too chose to put others first, because they were kind enough to honor our request and not let a word slip about our surprise.
I believe because we chose to put others first, the wedding went off without a hitch. It included our most favorite things: Family, food and cake. I’ll confess that when it came time for cake, I did put myself first.
The bible encourages cheerful giving – that includes giving of yourself for others. Sacrifice: Putting Others First
FIT@50 \ week 13
FIT@50 \ week 8
I’ve been a part of teams my entire life – from sports to SWAT. Victory by each definition was the ultimate goal, and I trained to achieve them like my life depended on it. In some cases it actually did.
This past weekend, Liliana Hart and I joined our most favorite team to challenge ourselves and each other in an adventure run. Team Us enjoyed the planning, and kidding about how we’d perform. We even had fun picking out a “noticeable” team jersey.
There was no trophy to collect or hostage to rescue. There were only 3.2 miles of mud, cargo nets, rain and laughter to maneuver through.
The shirts dirtied, but the smiles brightened as Team Us pulled together for an amazing race. Being FIT@50 has showed me the various definitions of victory, but always maintaining the value of Team. Team Us.
FIT@50 \ week 3
Empathy: It’s okay to care.
No matter how “fit” I’ve become, minding my own business has always been my business. During the many years in special operations my job was to know other’s secrets. I was good at my job.
Knowing the darkest moments in another person’s life is a cross of confidentiality I understood I’d carry to my grave. Over the years it might have even caused me to construct a wall around my empathetic understanding.
During a church service I looked around and saw people. I mean really saw people. I began to sense their hurt, their grief and their concerns. My immediate reaction was to mind my own business.
The difference was God placed them on my heart. They’d become my business. Without knowing their names or their “secrets,” I sensed connections with them. I began to pray for people I knew only by God placing their situations on my heart.
I didn’t have to get in their business and for certain sake, didn’t spread their business. I simply asked God to handle their business—Empathy.